Dear Lord --
I´m proud to say, so far today
I´ve got along all right;
I have not gossiped, whined or bragged,
Or had a single fight.

I haven´t lost my temper once,
Or criticized my mate,
I have not lied, I have not cried,
Or loudly cursed my fate.

So far today I´ve not one time
Been grumpy or morose,
I´ve not been spiteful, cold or vain,
Self-centred or verbose.

But, Lord, I´m going to need Your help
Throughout the hours ahead,
So give me strength, Dear Lord, for now
I´m getting out of bed

Avoid all negative sources, people, places, things and habits.
Believe in yourself.
Consider things from all angles.
Don’t give up and don’t give in.
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.
Family & friends are hidden treasures, seek them & enjoy their riches.
Give more than you planned.
Hang onto your dreams.
Ignore those who try to discourage you.
Just do it.
Keep trying, no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier.
Love yourself first and most.
Make it happen.
Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.
Open your eyes and see things, and yourself, as you really are.
Practice on it’s own isn’t enough. Perfect practice makes perfect.
Quitters never win and winners never quit.
Read, study and learn about everything that is important in your life.
Stop procrastinating. NOW.
Take control of your own destiny.
Understand yourself in order to better understand others.
Visualise it.
Want it more than anything you have ever wanted before.
Xcellerate your efforts. That’s xcellent.
You are unique. Nothing can replace You.
Zero in on what you want, and go for it.

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• Rule 1:  Life is not fair - get used to it!


• Rule 2:  The world won´t care about your self-esteem.  The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.


• Rule 3:  You will NOT make $100,000 a year right out of high school.  You won´t be a vice-president  with a car phone until you earn both.


• Rule 4:  If you think  your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.


• Rule 5:  Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity.  Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping - they called it opportunity.


• Rule 6:  If you mess up, it´s not your parents´ fault, so don´t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.  


• Rule 7:  Before you were born, your parents weren´t as boring as they are now.  They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were.  So, before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parents´ generation, try de-lousing the closet in your own room.


• Rule 8:  Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT.   In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they´ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer.  This doesn´t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
• Rule 9:  Life is not divided into semesters.  You don´t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF.  Do that on your own time.


• Rule 10:  Television is NOT real life.  In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
• Rule 11:  Be nice to nerds.  Chances are you´ll end up working for one.

Have you ever listened to the way many networkers talk about their business? Many distributors talk about the company they represent, others talk about their company´s great products, while some talk about all the money their upline is making. And let´s not forget the networkers who say, "This business is so easy you really don´t have to do anything."

I´m not saying that focusing exclusively on the company´s products will prevent you from sponsoring. And I´m not saying that showing copies of your upline´s bonus checks will stop some prospects from signing up on the spot. However, the first time someone told me that I wouldn´t have to do anything, my only thought was, "If I don´t have to do anything, why do they need me?"

Many of these tactics do help to enrol distributors. In fact, I´ve used all of them at one point or another in my networking career. The problem is . . . these tactics are not DUPLICABLE.

The purpose of this chapter is to give you an overview of a duplicable system that is highly effective when used with people with whom you develop a relationship. Notice the use of the word RELATIONSHIP. This business is about relationships and duplication.

Relationships are very important in this business because if you haven´t developed a relationship with an individual, you will have to sell your concepts to that person and . . . Most people really are sales resistant.

Go to any store where you know the employees are commissioned salespeople. Watch as the customers enter the store. What happens? The commissioned salespeople approach the customers saying, "May I help you?" But, since the majority of people prefer to buy, rather than being sold goods, customers reply, "No thanks I´m just looking." Have you ever used that phrase? See, most of us are sales resistant.

Now, there are a percentage of people who are not sales resistant . . . people who really like to sell . . . however this percentage is very small. So we have a decision to make. We can look only for salespeople, or we can look for non-salespeople and teach them how to sell.

How long do you think it would take to teach a prospect to sell when he or she doesn´t want to sell? In my opinion, it would be next to impossible to teach someone how to do something he or she doesn´t want to do. It definitely would take a lot of effort and a great deal of valuable time, with no guarantee of success. So, we can try the"teach selling" route, or we can have a system designed so that all the distributor has to do is follow instructions.

Let´s see . . . would it be easier for distributors to follow instructions . . . or would it be easier to teach them how to sell? Hum-m-m! Let´s say your family doctor writes a prescription for you. When you pick up the prescription, you are instructed to take three teaspoons of medicine three times per day. The doctor told you that if you took the medicine as instructed for seven days, you´d be back to normal. So, you follow the doctor´s instructions and in a week you´re back to normal.

You know, just about everyone can follow instructions.

When I was in eighth grade I worked as a busboy in a restaurant. My boss, the restaurant manager, told me, "Tom, when the customers have finished eating, clear the table and take the dirty dishes to the dishwasher. Then, when new customers have been seated, it´s your job to give them water, and to keep their glass full."

That was my job. I didn´t have to know anything about taking reservations, cooking, waiting on tables, or operating a cash register. I simply followed a set of instructions for clearing tables and pouring water.

It´s the same with your path to financial freedom. All you have to do is follow instructions. If you have a traditional job, you already follow instructions . . . the instructions set by the company that employs you! So you are not being asked to do something new, but rather something you are already doing.

CARE MORE



Care more............Than others think is wise.

Risk more............Than others think is safe.

Dream more.........Than others think is practical.

Expect more.........Than others think is possible.

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will.
When the road you’re trudging, seems all uphill.
When funds are low and the debts are high,
and you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit.
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is strange with it’s twists and turns,
as every one of us sometimes learns.
And many a person turns about,
when they might have won had they stuck it out.
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow.
You may succeed with another go.

Often the goal is nearer than it seems,
to a faint and faltering person.
Often the struggler has given up,
when they might have captured the Victor’s Cup,
and they learned, too late, when the night came down,
how close they were to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out,
the silver tint of the cloud of doubt,
and you can never tell how close you are,
it may be near when it seems afar.
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.
It’s when things seem worse that you mustn´t quit.

If you can keep your head when all about you,
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don´t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don´t give way to hating,
And yet, don´t look too good nor talk too wise.

If you can dream and not make dreams your master;
If you can think and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the words you´ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ´em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that´s in it,
And--which is more--you´ll be a man, my son!

--Rudyard Kipling

I´ve learned -
that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I´ve learned -
that no matter how much I care, some people just don´t care back.

I´ve learned -
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I´ve learned -
that it´s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I´ve learned -
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you´d better know something.

I´ve learned -
that you shouldn´t compare yourself to the best others can do

I´ve learned -
that it´s not what happens to people that´s important. it´s what they do about it.

I´ve learned -
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I´ve learned -
that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I´ve learned -
that it´s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I´ve learned -
that it´s a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I´ve learned -
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I´ve learned -
that you can keep going long after you think you can´t.

I´ve learned -
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I´ve learned -
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I´ve learned -
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I´ve learned -
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I´ve learned -
that learning to forgive takes practice.

I´ve learned -
that there are people who love you dearly, but just don´t know how to show it.

I´ve learned -
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I´ve learned -
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I´ve learned -
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you´re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I´ve learned -
that sometimes when I´m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn´t give me the right to be cruel.

I´ve learned -
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I´ve learned -
that just because someone doesn´t love you the way you want them to doesn´t mean they don´t love you with all they have.

I´ve learned -
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you´ve had and what you´ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you´ve celebrated.

I´ve learned -
that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I´ve learned -
that your family won´t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren´t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren´t just biological.

I´ve learned -
that no matter how good a friend is, they´re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I´ve learned -
that it isn´t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I´ve learned -
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn´t stop for your grief.

I´ve learned -
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I´ve learned -
that sometimes when my friends fight, I´m forced to choose sides even when I don´t want to.

I´ve learned -
that just because two people argue, it doesn´t mean they don´t love each other. And just because they don´t argue, it doesn´t mean they do.

I´ve learned -
that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I´ve learned -
that we don´t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I´ve learned -
that you shouldn´t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I´ve learned -
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I´ve learned -
that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I´ve learned -
that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I´ve learned -
that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.

I´ve learned -
that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I´ve learned -
that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don´t even know you.

I´ve learned -
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I´ve learned -
that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I´ve learned -
that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I´ve learned -
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I´ve learned -
that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I´ve learned -
that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.

I´ve learned -
that it´s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people´s feelings and standing up for what you believe.

I hope that you have learned something today.

This is about YOU, So put YOUR name in, where the ***** are.


Here are some things, *******, that you choose to make true about you.
Remember, these aren´t just words; they´re actual pictures of how you choose to be:

First off, you really are incredible!
It´s true; you are. Today especially!! You were born to live a life of quality and worth, you were born to be a quality person in every way - and that´s how you live your life; that´s who you choose to be.

So right now, today, you make the choice to go for it!
Today nothing can stop you, nothing can get you down. You see problems as the stepping stones to your success, and challenges as the road signs that tell you you´re on your way.

You´ve decided to make today count,
so instead of letting today go by with nothing to show for it, you make today special. Today is a day you´re glad to be alive and going for it! So that´s what you do. You take action! Instead of putting things off, you get things done.
Especially right now, today. This is your day in every way, and this is your day to get things done.

You have courage, *******!
You have, deep within you, all the strength you need to overcome any obstacle and reach any goal you set. You´re strong. You can do it, and you know you can. You believe in yourself! You have faith. You look forward, not back, and you believe in the most positive outcome of anything you do.

And you never give up.
You get started, you stay with it, and you do not stop until you´ve reached your goal. You have vision and perspective. You see your future as positive, fulfilling, and worth every step you´re taking to get there. You know what you want, you know where you´re going, and you will not stop.

That´s you, *******,
and all those things about you are true. You choose to be a quality person. You choose to be a winner. You´re on your way to being that incredible person you were born to be! You are incredible, - and today is a great day to prove it!
I believe in you, and I´ll talk to you soon.

When doing a presentation, your aim is to persuade your prospects to follow a particular course of action - willingly.

There are three elements in this process:

1. You must win the trust of your audience.

2. You must appeal to their emotions.

3. You must rationalise their decision for them, so that they feel comfortable in making it.

If you succeed in all three areas, you will have engineered their consent to buy your product or service.

Here are some tips to help you to achieve this desirable state of affairs:

1. Win the Trust of Your Audience

The first step is to show that you are a person who can be trusted - so try to give your audience something of value - advice, interesting "inside" information or helpful tips. Indicate why your opinion here should be valued - give a little detail about your background and your credentials.

To win their trust, you must know something about your audience:

What sort of people are they?

How old are they?

What are their special interests?

You must also try to find some common ground with your audience:

Begin with a point of common interest e.g. "I´m sure we all want to give our kids the best start possible..." Anticipate their responses by using rhetorical questions e.g. "You´re probably wondering where you´ll find the time to ..."

Use generalisations to persuade your audience to agree with you, people feel more comfortable when they know that, "80% of families use ..." or that "8 out of 10 teachers state that parental interest improves student grades ...".

2. Appeal to their emotions

We all know that people respond to emotional appeals more readily than to intellectual appeals, so utilise this in your presentation.

There are three steps to follow:

First, arouse an emotion - anger, fear, resentment, envy, greed, sympathy.

Second, give a reason for the emotion - "Your children are precious to you, don´t risk their future by ..."

Third, give your audience an appropriate course of action to follow - "Now is the time to ensure your place in this new ..."

When appealing to the emotions, your most powerful tools are words - learn to use them to create the desired effect on your listeners.

Words can have literal meanings (denotation) and emotional meanings (connotation) e.g. a "house" is a building where people live, but a "home" is much more.

Some words have strong emotive appeals "built-in" e.g. "chaos" implies something much stronger than disruption. Select your facts carefully - choose those that support your point of view.

3. Rationalise

This is giving people good reasons to believe what you´re telling them. We all do this to ourselves every day. How many times have you said something like this to yourself, "My old car is going to start costing me money soon; I´d be better off buying a new one now"?

Tell your would-be prospects that they´ll save money in the long run by spending it now and you´ve given them a reason to act immediately.

Summary:

* Emphasise and repeat your key points

* Be convincing in your presentation

* Use plenty of emotional words and focus on the audience

Consider how you can use these persuasive techniques to sell your products and services.

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness...you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation... you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you can follow your religion without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death... you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep...you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace...you are among the top 8% of the world´s wealthy.

If your parents are still alive and still married...you are very rare.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful...you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you can hold someone´s hand, hug them or even touch them on the shoulder...you are blessed because you can offer them, your God´s healing touch.

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you, and furthermore, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world that cannot read at all.

Have a GREAT day.
And count your blessings.

1. Act Successful

Success guru Anthony Robbins tells his audiences that, the fact that they got up in the morning means they are already successful! So given than you ARE successful ... it is time to ACT successful.

What does this mean? You must eat, breath, speak and dress successfully. If someone asks you how you are ... don´t whine about the weather. Say I´m "GREAT!" and really mean it. Pump yourself up continually until you feel like the success you are.

Acting successful doesn´t mean putting on a show and buying the car you haven´t got the resources for ... yet! Nor does it mean exaggerating how well you are doing in the business. It simply means having the inner confidence that you are going to make it ... knowing that you are already successful, and acting like it!

Some people listen to great tapes, or read great books to keep themselves in a successful state of mind. Do what ever it takes.

2. Goals to Success

You must have goals. You must know where you are going. Make them BIG goals. Make them FUN! Part of becoming a success is having goals that will take you to the top.

Once you know where you are heading (to the moon) you can take the smaller steps that will get you there (building the rocket ship).

Write your goals down. Share them with someone IF that motivates you. One of our friends belongs to a "mastermind" group that meets once a year to share their past successes and set new goals. The things that the people in this group have accomplished, and the changes they have made in their lives are phenomenal!

3. Visualize Success

Buy a few success oriented magazines such as Success and Entrepreneur. Cut out pictures, words and phrases that represent your goals. If you have a dream house, find a picture of it. Ditto with your "fantasy" car or vacation.

Pin these onto your bulletin board, or replace all those yellow stickies you have around your computer monitor with something more compelling!

For years Jim had a photo of his dream car pinned on his bulletin board. The bulletin board is right in front of the phone. And since he´s on the phone a lot ... he sees it every day. This year when he went to take delivery of his brand new luxury BMW he told the dealership about his dream and his bulletin board photo. They thought it was neat and took a whole roll of pictures of Jim driving his "dream" off the car lot. Now both the old picture and the new picture are on the bulletin board side by side. Talk about reinforcing the feeling of success and accomplishment!

4. Hang Out With Successful People

You can either hang out in the bar on Friday night with a bunch of guys and gals who constantly whine about how bad things are and about what jerks their bosses are ...

OR, you can hang around with successful, happy people. People who know where they are going and who are willing to do what it takes to get there. Don´t know where to find them? Keep going upline until you can find a group of people in your area. Go to your companies regional training and yearly conventions. Go where people are learning things and having fun.

Make sure you are the kind of person other people want to be around!

5. Model Success

Now that you are hanging around successful people you have someone to model. If you don´t have anyone you want to model in your direct upline , keep going higher and higher until you find someone you like and respect.

Read success oriented authors like Anthony Robbins and Brian Tracy. Get on your company´s tape programme.

Learn about and use your companies products. Know the compensation plan. Practice telling people about your company and what you do.

Learn about the Internet and about using the Internet to prospect for and grow your business. If you stop learning you will be left behind. WAY behind!

Get information and training from the people in your organization who are successful ... not the whiners at the bar!

6. Put Blinders On

Blinders are small flexible pieces of leather attached to a horse´s bridle. They prevent the horse from seeing anything except what´s in front of them. Without blinders, a horse can see almost completely behind itself without turning its head. Horses can easily get distracted and spooked when unfamiliar objects come up behind them.

The purpose of the blinders is to keep the horse focused on where it is going.

You need to put the blinders on too. It is so easy to be distracted by the unwashed dishes in the other room, by the guys going out for a beer ... by the TV or the phone. If you do business online, surfing can be soooo seductive. First you follow one link, and then another ... and soon your whole evening is gone and you´ve done nothing!

If you are going to be successful with your network marketing business you need to focus. You need to know what it is you have to do and then ... you have to DO IT!

Yes, you have to be aware of what´s out there on the web, but you also have to take the action steps that will get you to your goal. This might be contacting friends, writing a letter, answering your email and getting on the phone.

You need to have a plan. Put the blinders on and stick to your plan. If you need to surf for information or ideas or opportunities, then this should be part of your plan!

At the beginning of the article, we said we´d give you a half dozen success strategies. Well ... here´s a bonus!

7. Successful People Never Quit!

They just become more active.

First let us look at people who never leave their box and what they tell us (and themselves)

1. Tell you what you CAN´T do instead of focusing on what you CAN do.

2. Are critical of people who think differently than they do.

3. Are often negative, in general. They see the "worst first," and the "best last."

4. Try to bring you down to their level instead of trying to live up to yours.

5. Believe that people who try to rise above the crowd are foolish or dreamers.

6. Believe that their world is the "real" world, and the only world that counts.

7. Believe that if you disagree with them, you are wrong.

8. Argue their point of view instead of listening to yours.

9. Are afraid to leave their comfort zone.

10. Will defend to the end, their right not to change.

You get the idea. People who live "in the box" are people who believe that the only thing that exists is whatever they can see in the near-sighted scope of their own limited experience. Or, if they do know there’s another world outside, they´re afraid to go there.

I´m not suggesting that people who are in the box are "bad" people; they´re not. they´re just living out the Programs they got from the people who raised them, and the programs they get from the world around them. (People who are in the box always try to get other people to live in the box with them.) So in following the programs they get from others, many good people are failing to become anything like the exceptional individuals they could have been. They live up to only a small fraction of the incredible potential they were born with . . . and then one day it´s over . . . and they move from one box to another box.

One of the most important things you can ever learn is to avoid doing that. Here are some of the guidelines that have helped me and a lot of people I know get out of the box and stay out of the box:

12 RULES FOR LIVING OUTSIDE OF THE BOX

1. Always be willing to think for yourself.

2. Never live your life based on the uninformed or negative opinions of others.

3. Always be open to new ideas.

4. Associate with other people who think for themselves and are successful in life.

5. If you find yourself "going along with the crowd," always ask yourself where the crowd is going.

6. Make the decision to believe in yourself, no matter what.

7. Frequently ask yourself the question, "Am I thinking inside the box, or outside the box?"

8. Be willing to take responsibility for your own choices and your own actions.

9. Set goals and stick to them. Don´t let other people deter you or hold you back.

10. Don´t be afraid to be different. Most of life´s greatest accomplishments are achieved by people who break the mold.

11. Never be negative yourself. There is a lot of good in yourself and in the world around you. Practice seeing the good.

12. Enjoy your choices and enjoy what you do. Never let a day go by without being thankful for the fact that you get to be here in the first place.

By Shad Helmstetter

One day, an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers, he said, "Okay, time for a quiz."

He then pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouth mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. Then he produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one by one, into the jar.

When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?"

Everyone in the class said, "Yes."

Then he said, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar, causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the space between the big rocks.

Then he asked the group once more. "Is this jar full?"

By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered.

"Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question. "Is this jar full?"

"No!" the class shouted.

Once again, he said, "Good!". Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then the expert in time-management looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"

One eager beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it."

"No," the speaker replied, "that´s not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is this: If you don´t put the big rocks in first, you´ll never get them in at all. What are the big rocks in your life?
Your children. Your loved ones. Your education. Your dreams. A worthy cause. Teaching or mentoring others. Doing things that you love. Time for yourself. Your health. Your significant other. Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first, or you´ll never get them in at all."

If you sweat the little stuff (i.e. the gravel, the sand) then you´ll fill your life with little things you worry about that don´t really matter, and you´ll never have the real quality time you need to spend on the big, important stuff (the big rocks). So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question: What are the "big rocks" in my life? Then, put those in your jar first.
NEVER sweat the small stuff.

1. Be visible.
People have to be able to find you, but first they need to know you exist. Make it easy for your prospective clients to know about you and what you have to offer.

2. Don´t wait for others to open the right doors for you.
There´s really never a good time to do anything. You just need to do it without judging yourself or over-preparing.

3. Take action.
Do something on a daily basis that will get people to know you.

4. Give valuable information.
Collaborate with colleagues, offer information to others, do what you can to help others be successful. It all comes back to you. It truly does.

5. Market yourself without hard-selling.
There´s a difference between promotion for self-serving purposes and adding value to someone´s life.

6. Open up your space.
Creative flow cannot happen when you´re blocked for time, physical space, money, or other entanglements. Unclutter your life. Eliminate the non-essentials. Let go of the excuses.

7. Work with others for creative ideas.
Get all the ideas you can to move forward and then take responsibility and move.

8. Give your efforts time to develop.
Allow yourself at least 90 days before you change course. People don´t always respond immediately. If it´s not working by that time, modify what you are doing. Be careful to modify only one aspect of your plan at a time, otherwise you won´t know what it was that actually worked for you.

9. Follow up.
Don´t assume people will call you. Call them. Call them often enough to get noticed without being a pest. Always offer something of value to them when you call.

10. Let go of the outcome!
Put yourself out there and then let it go. No fretting. No attachment. Just keep moving forward.

This is what successful people do in some of the most important areas of life.

1. Successful people accept life as it is,
with all its difficulties and challenges. They adopt to it rather than complain about it. They accept responsibility for their own lives instead of blaming or making excuses.
They say YES to life in spite of its negative elements and make the most of it - no matter what the circumstances are.

2. Successful people have a sense of direction and purpose -
they know where they are going. They set goals, accomplish them, and then set new goals. They accept and enjoy challenges.

3. Successful people have a strong desire to learn -
about life, the world, and themselves. They see learning as a joy, not a duty. They are always discovering. always growing.

4. Successful people are action-oriented.
They are not afraid of hard work and they don´t waste time.

5. Successful people understand the difference between existing and living,
and always choose the latter. They get the most out of life because they put the most into it. And they enjoy life to the fullest.

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If you find yourself saying, "Yes! I am like this!", then congratulations! Because you are a success-minded person and are already way ahead of 99% of the population, because most people go through life without ever even thinking about these deep lessons in life.

If you find yourself understanding the above points but not really that much relating to them, still congratulations because the fact that you are reading these words here, is proof of you are serious about growing your mind and discovering the secrets to making your life more successful. So you are still much ahead of the average person. You have a gift that many don´t have: The desire to grow your life and happiness.

I have listed seven reasons why some people fail to reach their goals. Briefly, they are:

1. Not writing them down.
2. Lack of motivation.
3. Negative programs.
4. Wrong goals.
5. Fear.
6. Laziness.
7. Giving up.

Now, here is my list of some of the things you can do to overcome these goal-stoppers:

1. WRITE THEM DOWN.
Write a goal to write down your goals. This is the most important step you can take, and most people fail to do it. Set a date and do it. Do it as soon as possible.

2. GET EXCITED!
Talk about your goals every day. Track them and update them. Get interested. Get excited! The more you track your goals and talk about them, the more self-motivation you create.

3. CHANGE YOUR SELF-TALK.
This is essential. We always end up thinking and doing what we´re programmed to think and do.

4. SET SMALL, ATTAINABLE GOALS.
Big goals are okay, but it is the smaller, short-term goals that get you there. The small goals are the most important.

5. CHANGE THE PROGRAMS THAT CAUSE THE FEAR.
Most fear is the result of old programs--so this one, too, can be changed by changing your Self-Talk.

6. PRACTICE GETTING EXCITED AND GETTING THINGS DONE.
Laziness is a habit caused by forgetting how to be enthusiastic. Your goals are your blueprint for the rest of your life--and that´s something you should get excited about. And of course, when there´s something you need to do, do it now.

7. WHEN SOMETHING STOPS YOU, START AGAIN.
It´s normal to want to give up when you don´t reach the goal. But all people who reach their goals get there because they stay with it. They start again.

There are entire books written about every one of those simple steps to reaching your goals. But the fact is, if you just followed those steps, you would reach every worthwhile goal you set. Let me encourage you to do that.

After all, you´re worth it, and you CAN do it.

Five Of Which; Very Few Conventional Marketers Would Have Ever Thought of...

It´s a bold and perhaps unorthodox claim to make. But in essence our success is largely dependent upon how we fail, how we view our unsuccessful endeavours; and most importantly how we react to them afterwards.

Success is really the progressive realization of worthwhile pre-determined goals. It is this very journey which makes or breaks us. Here are ten excellent reasons how failure can, in fact be more beneficial for you than success...

1) ENCOURAGES LATERAL THINKING

As we all make mistakes it makes great sense to learn from these and look for other possible ways to resolve our situation. Failure encourages us to look for other solutions that we ordinarily would not have thought about had things been somewhat easier.

2) GIVES US EXPERIENCE

Do you remember going for your first job after school or after just completing university? It was probably hard to get employed directly into the job you wanted as the employer wanted those who had experience to work for them.

As we error and learn from our mistakes we tend to react accordingly making us a little more aware of what needs to be done in order to achieve our objectives. If we had succeeded immediately without tasting the disappointment associated with failure then it´s possible that we may not have not been so adventurous in looking for other possibilities such as that outlined in the first point.

3) BUILDS CHARACTER

When we have "stuffed up" enough times one can go either way! We can choose to throw the towel in and crawl into our shell thereby forgetting about what is most dear and important to us or we can learn from the experience, gain confidence, build character and become more the person that we ideally wish to be.
Personally I like the latter of the two...

4) FAILURE ENCOURAGES THE STRONG AND DISCOURAGES THE WEAK!

If your determination, will, desire and hunger to succeed are as big as you think, then to fail along the way is simply taking a lengthy detour to where you want to be. Nothing more! We´ve all been in city traffic jams. Sometimes it´s easier (and quicker) to go an extra twenty blocks out of your way to get home.

Sure, it´s hard getting up after a dozen knock-downs in rapid succession but you´ll find a direct correlation between how quick you get back up and how long you stay there as your experience increases.

5) MAKES YOU HONEST WITH YOURSELF

If you find it hard or even impossible to justify to yourself why you´re doing what you´re doing then maybe you´re barking up the wrong tree. Try something else in this case.

However, if your desire increases even though your successes have, to date, eluded you then the realistic value of this goal has been determined. This is priceless. You know you want it so for heaven´s sake go and get it!!!

6) MAKES ONE MORE INTANGIBLE/THICKSKINNED

This depends if you have what it takes to go all the way. If you melt under pressure then you´ll probably give up. As things become more clearer with your experience then nothing can touch you. You will begin to develop power from within! Your self-confidence goes wild with "tunnel vision" offering only one outcome; that of reaching the end. All the stuff you cop on the way you´ll shake off and become a better person for it. Becoming thick-skinned is really a by-product of character building with a bit more; it shows the development of the individual and reflects the change in attitude that brings the best out of us all.

7) SUCCESS TOO SOON CAN GIVE FALSE CONFIDENCE

I´ve seen this time and time again with different types of businesses. They become too big too quick. Normally their size increase is inversely proportional to their ability to read books (of accountancy).

This is really a question of experience. Those who worked hard for a start then followed this up by working smarter to get where they are at today will have a much higher chance of succeeding in the long term than someone who made a couple of right decisions early on but didn´t develop due to a lack of exposure to other possible problems etc. I don´t mean that we should all struggle for a start to make a success of what we´re doing. What I´m saying is that generally speaking those who have had problems, learned from them and solved them have a better chance of developing further simply due to their exposure and experience.

Succeeding too quickly may actually blind one´s potential...

8) FAILURE ENCOURAGES IMPROVEMENT & PLANNING

If I keep "stuffing up" what I´m doing then obviously it´s the operator who´s lacking and not the tools. Failing is one thing, but making the same futile mistake repetitively is just plain ridiculous. So, if this seems to be happening it probably makes good sense to sit down and re-analyze your approach. Sure it´s possible to do this when you´ve succeeded as well to look when looking to the next task and goal but there´s a sense of urgency about this when things aren´t going to plan.

Failing is simply a way of finding out that your methods of the day didn´t work. It´s not a bad thing, it just requires a gentle grease and oil change, a lubrication here and there and then you can put your vehicle back on the road and test the re-alignment once again. Through careful planning and observation, failure will ALWAYS push you in the direction of success if you use it as the stepping stone for goal achievement that it so rightfully is.

9) FAILURE REVEALS YOUR WEAKNESSES

Are you someone who passes on all the stuff you don´t do very well or would you rather stick at it, making a few errors along the way to eventually master the art? Take a simple tennis match for example. Do you run around your backhand to use your forehand and develop half a game or do you feed your backhand until it becomes as good as your forehand?
Use failure as a chance to strengthen those areas that are letting you down.

10) SUCCESS IS THE ATTITUDE, FAILURE IS THE LEVER

Develop a successful attitude and let failure lever and assist you with it´s strength and power of learning and understanding. Do not allow failure to absorb and destroy your spirit. Gain strength from knowing your desired outcome is one step closer.

If you have 100 ways you would like to try to get your desired result then one wrong turn just involves backing-up a tad and altering your game plan with your newfound knowledge. The world provides you with an abundance of opportunity so for heaven´s sake don´t take the easy way out and let yourself down because you screwed up a few times. Build on your knowledge; apply it all, use it, do it, make it, be it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Think Successfully. Your partner in success.